The Perfect Parent Myth


We all know there is no such thing. The Perfect Parent is just like the bogieman or the Yeti. No one has ever actually seen one.

Oh yes we have heard of them, usually from the ones that think they are the perfect ones, but yes we do hear about them. The thing that I ponder on is the fact that these perfect parents all parent differently.

So does the perfect parent boobie feed or bottle feed??

Does the perfect parent wean on the guidelines or before the guidelines?

Does the perfect parent say yes to every little material desire or say no?

“To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today”
– Anonymous

The perfect parent, in my opinion, is the one that always does their best for their babies and children. Yeah we all make mistakes along the way, even 6 times down the line I still mess up and wing it half the time. I give my babies weetabix before 6 months, I dont breast feed, I have bumped their heads on the door frames when walking past and not got it checked out, and even as they have gotten older I still am not perfect. 12 years of practice and I still forget to help 1 with his homework, go 3 0r 4 days forgetting to get 2’s glasses fixed even though he is as blind as a bat without them, or tell them to stop moaning when they have fell over and that I have seen bigger cuts on my eyeball. I still have the TV on too much for the little ones.  So I am holding my hand up and saying from this perspective I am NOT the perfect parent.

“Live so that when your children think of fairness and integrity, they think of you.” 
– H. Jackson Brown

So as long as we try to raise our chidren with morals, manners and respect, it doesnt really matter how the were fed as a baby, or what brand of clothes they wear, or even if you managed to help them with their homework last Tuesday. Perfect parents care, so I guess there really is a hell of a lot of Perfect Parents out there then

“If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others.” 
– Haim Ginott

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3 comments

  1. Your so right I tied myself up in knots cos I couldn’t breast feed, cos society made me feel like a failure. I left my wee man at a creche today for the first time, I had to pick him after 45mins cos he was hysterical, again a failure as a mammy. He’s happy thou I read to him he wakes witha smile why can’t that be enough?? For me

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    1. Never a failure hun, just exercises in life, thats all it is 🙂 When we get it wrong, we try again, after a few times of trying we realise “Actually I am not wrong this works for ME”

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